HOPE Groups:
creating possibilities out of chaos
© 2001, HOPE
and Ken Hamilton, MD
The challenge of our time is to learn to
focus on possibility and meaning in life rather than on life’s
problems and their causes. When we can focus on our innate
ability to meet and move beyond challenges, we focus on what
is possible; not what is wrong. HOPE groups help people face
challenges in their lives by focusing on what they want to
have happen… what they would like to see come of things. We
encourage the participant to “go for it”, and patiently wait
without expectations (“shoulds”) for the appearance of the
person’s essence--the soul--to take charge of the life, letting
the ego concentrate its strengths on serving the soul and its
purpose in this lifetime. When it appears, we reflect on its
presence and nurture it as it appears. It is a magical,
wondrous process.
Consider the lives of those with serious illness; fear,
pain, uncertainty and despair often fill their days. Consider
the lives of those facing the loss of loved ones; what fills
their days? Consider the lives of alcoholics; what fills their
days? Consider the behavior of today’s children; what fills
their days? They all need the relief and salutary experience
of hope. A HOPE Group provides this experience.
Hope is an essential ingredient of the human condition. It
provides us with a vitally important way of looking into our
future. How we see that future determines the quality of the
present moment. Hope is not simply a “promise of good things”;
rather it is the belief that things can make sense, regardless
of how they turn out (Vaclav Havel). When things do not make
sense, we become afraid. To Dante, in The Divine Comedy, hell
is the place where nothing makes sense. It is the source of
all fear, pain, and suffering. The purpose of a HOPE Group
is to support individuals facing hell while they make sense
out of their lives.
People come to HOPE groups because of the hellfire of
an acute illness like cancer or AIDS or the black hole of a
chronic condition like depression, CFIDS, or chronic pain. The
HOPE Group helps them identify their fear and replace it
with hope through the discovery of the meaning, value and
purpose in their life. Inner peace returns, and the experience
of joy and happiness becomes possible, regardless of the
ultimate course of the illness .
Every human being is unique. The Universe comes together in
only one time and place for each one of us. A HOPE Group
celebrates that uniqueness because it gives us the right to be
individuals. We all share a quality of “human-ness” helps us
to overcome feelings of “specialness” that only serve to
help our egos separate us. The law of returns reassures us that as we
nurture the wonder of each other, we nurture the wonder of our
individual selves.
The groups focus on nurturing each member's core passion--their
innermost desires. The discovery and nurturance of this vital
component of self leads people beyond the confines of their
illnesses to the discovery of the meaning, value, and purpose of
their lives. The fundamental belief on which the groups work is
that the answers to all of our questions lie within and can be
discovered in the presence of a nurturing group of human beings
who are all on the same path.
HOPE Groups are highly effective means of stress
management that help people face challenges of all kinds. They
develop synergy, the
ability of minds to work together and create far more than
they can when working apart. They nurture success, focusing on
the possibilities that lead to a solution rather than the
problem that prevents them from getting there. Research shows us that the
challenge of disease responds favorably to group work. It
shows us that children grow and develop wonderfully in
diversified groups. It shows us that industry grows best out
of group process.
Health is more than just a state of being-free-of-disease.
Though being-free-of-disease can imply the existence of
health, health is being-wholly-alive! Indeed, the root meaning
of the word, health, implies both wholeness and holiness! To
us, health is a natural condition of all of living things.
HOPE Groups help people focus on health by critically
examining the process and meaning of their lives. We know that
it is possible to be healthy even when disease is present.
Conversely, it is possible to be unhealthy even when there is
no recognizable disease! Everyone has likely met someone who
is an example of one or the other condition.
Each one of us is capable of finding health because it is
our natural state. Furthermore, we believe that no one else
can heal us but ourselves, though others can help in many
ways. We believe that “fixing” is not helping. We heal through
the power of our own inner resources, and the work of helpers
is to assist in the recovery of those resources.
We have learned in HOPE to take the problems of our
past as they present themselves and create possibilities from
them. We have seen that some people perceive that their
disease represents an unresolved problem in their life. We
accept such a belief, but we do not try to force people into
such thinking, for it will create guilt in already unhappy
people. Guilt is a harmful and restrictive state of mind that
always fosters fear. Creating guilt is contrary to our beliefs
and purposes. We work to release the guilty past, and to
change a fearful future into hope. We have the belief that all
of our life experiences have value. With this attitude,
HOPE groups foster the development of lives of balance and
harmony. We foster our ability to love, which brings us into
relationship with others and ourselves. Ken Hamilton knows
from his personal experience of over 4,000 HOPE group
meetings that the process is a spiritual one. It is not
religious; it touches the spiritual essence of a human, the
soul. HOPE's name for this process is SoulCircling™.
The person who helps group participants in the HOPE
process is a guide--a HOPE guide. Each HOPE guide
has participated in a personal SoulCircling experience and special
added instruction in the methods of guiding HOPE
Groups. SoulCircling™ is a
process of discovering and implementing one’s soul’s intention
through story-telling, taking a loving personal inventory,
sharing these with a “small group” and creating and affirming
the intention that rises out of this process. The story
contains the important elements that shape one’s life. The
inventory comprises one’s talent, temperament, intelligence(s),
responsibilities, attachments, and core passion. The intention
is the soul’s reason for coming into one’s human form. This one-day, process, spread out over
a serious of weekly meetings, is
the HOPE Group process.
A HOPE guide works with proven methods
of communication, listening, rapport building, image
making, and the development of personal metaphors. S/he
knows how to accept a person and his or her story without
judgment. S/he is a student and practitioner of
compassion, humbly accepting people for what they are and
not what someone else thinks they might be. S/he may not
be a facilitator in the true sense of the word because she
may challenge the other to reach into the core of her or
his being. S/he is a fierce, empowering protector of the
individual’s right to be her or himself. S/he supports and
defends the sharing, caring nature of the group, aware
that these two qualities opens the door to a healing
transformation of self. The typical guide assumes an
active, helping role in a group; coaching and encouraging
each participant toward the discovery of his or her own
truth. HOPE guides are a part of the group themselves,
modeling the work of being on the path of discovery and
recovery. They find that this contributes to their health!
HOPE groups meet weekly for two hours. The meeting
opens with a shared reading of the H.O.P.E GoldBook©. It
contains the HOPE Group Opening, the context for the
meeting; the Principles of Attitudinal Healing, twelve
powerful, spiritual affirmations; and the HOPE Group
Guidelines, a verbal agreement on the group’s conduct for
the next two hours. The group then spends this time
sharing their experiences and the thoughts and feelings
they have about them. The guide helps the participants
maintain their focus on The Golden Book. The last twenty
to thirty minutes are sometimes spent in guided
relaxation, according to the group’s inclination.
HOPE Groups are ongoing and remain open to new
members, always remaining confidential. A HOPE group of from ten to fifteen participants
creates meetings of six to twelve on a regular basis.
Groups have decided to split when they have exceeded these
numbers.
The groups discuss whatever develops as a matter of
group consensus. As open attendance brings about
fluctuations in group size and mix, so the agenda changes
from meeting to meeting. The founder’s experience in a
Quaker college and later as a member of the Religious
Society of Friends leads us to believe in the spontaneous
development of a “sense of the meeting” for each session.
We are continuously pleased and surprised to see how often
it appears that a particularly important topic comes up
when just those who need to talk about it are present in
the meeting.
Another Quaker practice gives profound support to the
HOPE Group relationships…the “clearness committee.”
Quakers have used the clearness committee to conduct
pastoral affairs since their founding in the middle of the
17th-century. A clearness committee comes together at an
individual’s request in order to address a concern. (It is
fair to say that everyone in a HOPE Group has a
concern.) The committee consists of a small group of
supporting acquaintances whose role is to listen, to ask
questions for clarification, to reflect on what is heard
without judgment, criticism, or advice; and to affirm the
convener, knowing that s/he has, inside her or him, the
answers s/he seeks.
The prime directive for HOPE Group function has two
parts: the first is, Primam, non nocere; “First of all, do
no harm.” We conduct our groups in complete
confidentiality, and with mutual care, consideration, and
support. (If a breach of confidence takes place, the guide
knows to allow the mistake once, but to point out that a
repeat will result in the individual being asked to leave
the group.) The second part is, “Do good; benefit
someone.” So, clearness committee practices are perfect
for HOPE Groups.
HOPE groups create an attitude of care and love
that nurtures valuable, close relationships. Many
participants find that their HOPE experience creates
an enthusiastic anticipation of each meeting. There is so
much much humor, including the gallows kind, in a HOPE
group that when new people ask a receptionist where the
HOPE group is meeting, they are told, “Just follow the
sound of the laughter!”
We encourage participants to develop comprehensive
personal health programs. There is evidence that
“alternative” methods of healing such as nutrition,
massage, acupuncture, therapeutic touch, energy work in
its many forms, yoga, and astrology actually complement
conventional medical therapies. We keep track of
individual experiences with these methods, and share these
experiences on an anecdotal basis. Our groups have invited
many special therapists and authors to speak to them.
HOPE encourages these activities.
We do not look at a HOPE group as a conventional
form of counseling or psychotherapy. We believe that every
guide is an active participant in his or her own group.
With this attitude, we invite gifted individuals from
various backgrounds to become guides. We do not consider
it necessary for a potential guide to have taken
specialized counseling training. We require intelligence,
compassion, caring, concern, and, above all, love to guide
our groups. All those who run HOPE groups are
motivated to help people develop the ultimate personal
realization that life has meaning, purpose, and value.
A HOPE Group can be
started anywhere. People who want to do something about
their futures can be found in schools, hospitals,
businesses, prisons, churches, and government. In
virtually every group there are potential guides. We seek
the intuitive, caring, concerned and thoughtful listener
to whom others turn because s-he believes in them. This
person must trust that the present and the future can make
sense, and be willing to openly and confidently share that
belief with others.
HOPE's work grew out of Ken Hamilton’s study of the
experience of the entrepreneur and radio personality, Earl
Nightingale. When he was twelve years old, Earl began a
lifetime study of the essence of success. He and Lloyd
Victor Conant founded the Nightingale-Conant Corporation
in 1960 to disseminate this knowledge. Hamilton began his
study of Earl’s work in 1975. He saw that these principles
of success could benefit his surgical patients. From the
outset, they were accepted and applied with wonderful
effects. He knows that they contributed greatly to his
successful surgical practice.
By the mid 1980’s, the psychological effects of this
work led Hamilton to study counseling. He worked with a
gifted psychiatrist, Barry Wood, MD. Through his tutor’s
experience with alcoholism and cancer, he was introduced
to Twelve-Step group work and the work of Bernie Siegel,
MD. Siegel had developed very successful support groups in
New Haven, CT, and had written an excellent book about
them called, Love, Medicine and Miracles. Ken read this
book and met Bernie at one of his Psychology of Illness
and Art of Healing workshops.
Siegel spoke at length about his support groups, which
called themselves Exceptional Cancer Patients groups. He
disliked having to call people "patients" or label them
with "cancer". He stated that he had wished to call the groups
“HOPE” groups, but no one could figure out a good acronym
for the letters. He believed that he was not to use the
word unless he could develop the acronym. His belief was a
gift, as we shall see.
One month after meeting Siegel, Hamilton encountered
the “Attitudinal Healing” work of Jerry Jampolsky MD at
another workshop and through reading Jerry’s Love is
Letting Go of Fear. All of these experiences led Ken to
see the potential for a support group in his own surgical
practice, and a small, enthusiastic group of people joined
him on February 12, 1987. They chose to call the group a
HOPE Group, and, in response to Siegel’s challenge,
created the acronym, Healing Of Persons Exceptional,at its second meeting! HOPE’s
ideas have caught on, and now the people have come who
will help develop and disseminate them.
We in HOPE have come to know that this unique work
can be taught and it must be taught. Certain people who
work in the field of education, counseling and health have
joined HOPE to develop the methods of teaching these
skills to others. Those we teach will then become guides
for HOPE groups of their own. We have developed and
implemented an effective training program. We plan to have
the program accredited by one of our Maine colleges.
We believe that the majority of humans can come to the
realization that all things can make sense. This is our
simple message. It is complete with extremely effective
methods for reaching its understanding. The methods have
withstood the test of centuries of human experience, and
they are summarized by Earl Nightingale in a gift that he
gave to all those who knew him. He said: “I have three
things for your success; a Formula, a Gold Mine, and a
Word. The Formula is, ‘You become what you think about.’
The Gold Mine is ‘The Mind’, and the Word is ‘Attitude’.”
HOPE says that to replace fear with hope is the
fundamental attitudinal shift that leads to health, which
is basic to all of us… a universal birthright. This basic
shift in our consciousness transforms us. HOPE groups
facilitate the shift and the transformation. The
experience is profound, healthy, happy, and joyful for all
those who participate in HOPE’s group meetings.
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